#Law #Rule: 2018-07-16

•1 Controls, directions, guides, laws, rules, and shoulds cannot do what they are about.

•2 Controls, directions, guides, laws, rules, and shoulds cannot teach you to do what they are about.

•3 Controls, directions, guides, laws, rules, and shoulds are only a problem if you try to use them to perform with.

•4 Controls, directions, guides, laws, rules, and shoulds can be used to help you gain a feel for what works, but not for working.

•5 Controls, directions, guides, laws, rules, and shoulds can help you to find the right channels to tune into for performing well, but not for performing well.

#Rule-based #Death: 2018-07-15

•1 Rule-based art is no art.

•2 Rule-based love is no love.

•3 Rule-based creativity is no creativity.

•3 Rule-based spirituality is no spirituality.

•5 Rule-based skill or talent is no skill or talent.

#Shared #Self-talk: 2018-07-14

•1 The most interesting thing about human couples is that they combine their individual self-talk patterns into one shared pattern with split roles for each partner.

•2 Men and women pair up knowing instinctively who shares and who does not share compatible self-talk patterns or roles. (Couples cannot be formed if the main individual self-talk patterns cannot be merged into one pattern, one dual set of roles.)

•3 For example, the nagging partner is the one who was most suited for the critical part of the merged self-talk pattern because it was dominant inside them, and while it seems to be their problem alone, they are just acting out one half of the shared couple role-talk.

•4 Look for one of the many dualities (addictive and codependent, aggressive and passive, abusive and victim, critical and accepting, disagreeable and agreeable, dominant and submissive, forward and withdrawing, negative and positive, vengeful and forgiving) and note how if one person in that duality leaves the relationship they then find the same duality and role in their next relationship.

•5 Change in relationships requires change in your self-talk, not change in anyone or anything else; and once you change your basic self-talk pattern the relationship has to adjust or end. (The other option is to surrender ego since the self-talk dualities only exist to maintain ego.)

#Dehumanize #Thingify: 2018-07-13

•1 Esteeming is only done between egos, because human nature is identical and one; esteem all humans equally lest you reify any.

•2 Judging is only done between egos, because human nature is identical and one; quit thingifying yourself and others as judgments.

•3 Comparing is only done between egos, because human nature is identical and one; quit comparing and concretizing yourself and others.

•4 Imagining yourself is imagining your ego, because human nature cannot be reduced to any amount of images; stop dehumanizing yourself and others as images.

•5 Conceptualizing yourself is conceptualizing your ego, because human nature cannot be reduced to any amount of concepts; stop hypostatizing yourself and others as concepts.

#Country #Borders: 2018-07-12

•1 A country without borders is like a body without skin.

•2 A country without borders is like a baby without safety limits.

•3 A country without borders is like a child without safety boundaries.

•4 A country without borders is like a highway without safety regulations.

•5 A country without borders is like a sports game without referees and rules.

#Worse #Fate: 2018-07-11

• To escape a lion, a man jumped into quicksand.

• To escape a war, a man jumped ship into a river of alligators.

• To escape a sinking ship, a man jumped into a school of sharks.

• To escape a swarm of bees, a man jumped into a river of piranhas.

• To escape a prison, a man jumped from a prison wall into rows of razor-wire.

#Activist #Politician: 2018-07-09

• Politicians and activists are often part of the problem, not the solution, because they exploit problems for fame, funding, pride, and votes.

• Politicians and activists are often part of the problem, not the solution, because they spout slogans that hide the manifold causes and roots of problems.

• Politicians and activists are often part of the problem, not the solution, because instead of problem-solving they propose blind, disproven, limited, narrow, politically correct, or unproven solutions.

• Politicians and activists are often part of the problem, not the solution, because instead of seeking to understand all of the factors that go into causing problems like poverty and violence, they promote programs that address only political issues but satisfy mob emotions and outrage.

• Politicians and activists should wake up to their lack of care, compassion, conscience, and integrity and take some problem-solving courses to learn how to recognize and deal with all the variables of problems while testing potential solutions regardless of their political source.